Re: What's the craziest thing you've read/heard today?
Yeah, I was drunk last night, so that post ended up really disjointed. And yeah, the phrase you quoted was horrifically phrased, so I apologize for the confusion. I'll try to clarify.
Originally Posted by dickay
What I was trying to say is that, generally speaking, we have a society and culture dominated by white christian males. I don't think that's particularly controversial; that's just how it is. It's also a society where sex is pervasive, but sex is also viewed as dirty or something to be hidden. The combination places all sorts of divergent and complicated pressures on women with regards to sex, and I think that combination is why, when Free posts those quotes about men going "wow, I guess I was date raped, weird, let's go get breakfast," we can see there's a huge disparity compared to what happens to girls psychologically as a result of date rape. So, I wonder if, we had a more even or matriarchal culture, that disparity in psychological impact would even out, or flip, or what. It's not about being accepting of rape; it's wondering if the psychological damage would be different in some way in a different culture. Admittedly, I could be misrepresenting the psychological impacts on each gender group based on anecdotes and just not having done enough research.
At the same time, it's not society's fault when someone commits rape. It's the perp's fault. And I think that while we can explore comparative psychological impact and its interplay with society as a whole, that doesn't have anything to do with one person making an affirmative decision to rape, or making the decision to put themselves in a bad situation where they are likely to hurt someone. And so I think that's the danger with an "ask a rapist" thread; you're either giving the worst of the worst an audience for their depravity, or you're opening the door for justifying reckless and harmful behavior.
Yeah I need a Winn-Dixie grocery bag full of money right next to the VIP section...